not now. eventually, maybe.

possibly.

: (

welllllllllllllll FUCK

your willingness for friendship is out of concern for hurting your partner. Leave some space and a bit of time. Be as honest as possible.

um, well, seems it was mutual, but he "wants to be selfish"

not sure what the hell that means.

I dunno.

I want to be mature. help me, aussies.

friendships are possible but they are often wracked with problems of their own... a lot of the same issues come up all the time.

give it some time and space and surround yourself with other friends for a while.

yeah, I guess.

ok, so how to return stuff without it feeling like a divorce?

any ideas?

why am I still not doing this correctly?

ah, the returning stuff thing is always a bit weird. it's gonna feel like a weird pivotal moment, no matter how you try and think of it.

it's the same as deleting sweet old text messages and stuff... it's a cutting of ties.

le sigh

yep, sad.

and its not like we were happy at the end either.

wtf.

I just don't want to think I'd never see or talk to him again. not even romantically, just at all.

but then again, I think I would die if I did see him right now.

stupid feelings.

you don't ave to return everything..

just the main stuff, small things of no importants just come off as a kick in the nuts.

i have a lot of his artwork.

I don't want to keep them, but I don't want to kick him in the nuts by giving them back, since he doesn't seem to care about them.

argh.

time you say, svelte?

'bout how long you reckon?

*importance

take the artwork down, and store it.. it's not gonna help you find your own space looking at it all the time.

not sure on the time thing... it's different for each relationship and each person.

keep yourself busy and surround yourself with friends.

thanks aussies.

I'm trying.

I can't promise you that I won't make more banal threads, though.

Don't see him for six months, just have a phone friendship and move on. The phone creates physical difference. If it was a long relationship, move countries for a few years.

Ah, yeah. It really does suck.

Getting stupidly drunk is a possible solution, but it hurts. Ouch.

Go on an adventure. Somewhere remote but exciting so you're not stuck with nothing to do but think about your ex. Use up a big chunk of your time, money and annual leave to treat yourself to something special.

I went away surfing on the Sunshine Coast for a week after I broke up with my last ex, was pretty awesome, favourite holiday ever. But then again, I'm the type that enjoys my own company... if you get lonely easily/can't stand not socialising for a week, it might not be for you. The only ones holidaying domestically at this time of year are grey nomads - lovely, chilled out people, but not good if you're the sort who wants to get over your ex by getting wasted and picking up.

Or ARE THEY!?

does a two month fancy get afforded the moniker ''ex'' nowdays?

does a two month fancy get afforded the moniker ''ex'' nowdays?

I was thinking something similar

does a two month fancy get afforded the moniker ''ex'' nowdays?

Not in my books but I guess it depends on how intense the fling was... but we're talking to ghostie now, who is in proper break-up status. I guess we just don't have a ''generic dating crises thread, and if we did it would probably be a horrible cringe-fest.

Or ARE THEY!?

The one I got talk to most on said holiday was an ex-pastor, so no, he wasn't.

The logistics of this is a huge pain in the ass, we live together and have a month left on the lease. So now I'm looking at one bedders around my hood. OR I can do the seachange thing and move to Manly where there's already a place available for me. It's so hard. Fuck.

Get out ASAP. Even if you're just in Manly while you look for something more permanent. Once out, delete their number, email, remove as a Fbook friend and throw out/give away anything that reminds you of them (photos, presents etc) or if that's too hard to stomach, put it in a box and ask a relative/friend to store it for you for the next 6-12 months. I also agree with the idea of taking a holiday (in my case, I moved interstate - but even a week away will help). Focus on your health, your fitness. Treat yourself to some new clothes or that camera you've had your eye on or whatever. Don't get a pet because you're 'lonely', wait at least a year. Lay off the booze and drugs. Allow yourself one day to cry, cry, cry until you have nothing left then dust yourself off and move on. Works for me.

Or - write yourself off this weekend, hook up with a random, send your ex emotional/abusive texts at 4am and mop up your regret and shame with some greasy food. I prefer the former.

If you liked them they are an ex. If you didn't they're not.... That is the rule.

throw out/give away anything that reminds you of them (photos, presents etc)

almost...you should definitely burn it. burning photos and love letters and shit with a half bottle of scotch is therapy at its finest.

Sexes with exes is probably the best option available.

If you liked them they are an ex. If you didn't they're not.... That is the rule.

Disagree. You just don't have the whole dividing the house/pets/friends thing when it's only been a couple of months. You don't have the whole ''we've worked like fuck to hold onto this and in the end it's all for nothing'' feeling. You haven't had time to adopt so much of the other person's interests, lifestyles and attitudes. You haven't been with the one person so long that you've forgotten how to pick up and what's the done thing nowadays.

I don't make up the rules. They just are.

I think Skylar and Hank will work together and so will Jessie and Walt.

But you totally did make up that rule! I've never heard of it in my life!

I think Skylar and Hank will work together and so will Jessie and Walt.

not sure if intentional

applauds anyway

Really? That's so weird. I thought everyone knew that rule...

Thx Anon

brules rules

brules rules

black wasp! is funny

Northside: I call bullshit, pal.

I think Skylar and Hank will work together and so will Jessie and Walt.

ha, actual lol, whether intentional or not!